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WHAT IS FRIENDSHIP?

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I reflected on the meaning of friendship these days. I’ve been thinking for months, actually.
You know, people are quick in defining. Define anything: that steel is cold when it is not true (see here), that every relationship is love, that spending Saturday night together means friendship.
What is friendship?
I’ll answer you with the first things that come to my mind: friendship is to be for the other always, especially in the worst moments. It’s unconditional support. It’s to put aside pride, to give without asking, it’s love but without constraints and restrictions. It’s understanding and empathy. Especially empathy.

Maybe we don’t all know what it is, many confuse it with the simply being together, with the laughter, with the Saturday night.
This is because opportunities to prove the values of friendship are rare. It happens only occasionally, when life suddenly sank and something breaks in the harmony of evening laughter. And that’s where the truth is revealed.
Have you ever hear that in the worst moments you find yourself alone? Because it is in those moments that friendship should prove itself, and that is where we find the absurd confusion we are all subjected to: that friendship is very rare (because very few are people with values and without selfishness) and there isn’t a word that classifies all the people with whom we spend the best moments, but who aren’t real friends. It would be a word between friendship and knowledge, a step ahead of friendship but with a more sympathetic connotation than simple “knowledge.”
They should invent it. We would stop lying and confusing us, and to swing between disbelief of disappointment and anger in the dark moments in the presence of no-no-one was a true friend.
They should invent it. We would stop lying and confusing ourselves, and to swing between disbelief, disappointment and anger in our dark moments in the presence of no one -because no one was a true friend.

Mom’s loss was the scales on which I have weighed all my life, my strength, my love, the people I know. The sufficiency with which I was treated dropped the veil that repaired those who defined themselves as friends, showing a monstrous indifference and immaturity.
I’m not in the position of having to give anyone understanding, it should be the opposite. No time or third chance – the second I have already given them.
I have the right to choose who to have with me and with whom to spend my precious time, that could leave with Mom at any time.
I’m sorry it went this way, but it wasn’t my fault.
My life has changed completely since 8 months.

I took advantage of the need for this vent to show a total Romwe look, which has Gucci and Chanel vibes and for which I adore a lot. The quality is amazing, especially when compared to the low price of everything. On Romwe you’ll find everything you want from a lifetime without having to spend a fortune, believe me.
xx Dasynka


Riflettevo sul significato dell’amicizia, in questi giorni. Ci sto riflettendo da mesi, in realtà.
Sapete, le persone sono veloci nel definire. Definire qualsiasi cosa: che l’acciaio sia freddo quando invece non è vero (vedi qui), che ogni relazione sia amore, che passare il sabato sera insieme significhi amicizia.
Cos’è l’amicizia?
Vi risponderò con le prime cose che mi vengono in mente: amicizia è esserci per l’altro sempre, soprattutto nei momenti peggiori. È sostegno incondizionato. È mettere da parte l’orgoglio, è dare senza chiedere, è amore ma senza vincoli e restrizioni. È comprensione ed empatia. Soprattutto empatia.

Forse non tutti sappiamo cosa sia, molti la confondono con il semplice stare insieme, con le risate, col sabato sera. Questo perché le occasioni per dimostrare i valori dell’amicizia sono rari. Succede solo a volte, quando la vita d’un tratto si incrina e qualcosa si spezza nell’armonia della risata serale. Ed è lì che si palesa la verità.
Avete mai sentito che nei momenti peggiori ci si ritrovi da soli? Perché è in quei momenti che l’amicizia dovrebbe dimostrarsi, ed è lì che scopriamo l’assurda confusione a cui tutti siamo soggetti: che l’amicizia è rarissima (perché rarissime sono le persone con valori e senza egoismo) e che non esiste una parola che classifichi tutte quelle persone con cui si trascorrono i momenti migliori, ma che non sono amici veri. Sarebbe una parola a metà tra amicizia e conoscenza, un passo prima dell’amicizia ma con una connotazione più simpatica della semplice “conoscenza”. Dovrebbero inventarla. Smetteremmo di mentirci e di confonderci, e di oscillare tra incredulità delusione e rabbia nei momenti bui alla presenza di nessuno -perché nessuno era amico vero.

La perdita di mamma è stata la bilancia su cui ho pesato tutta la mia vita, la mia forza, il mio amore, le persone che conosco. La sufficienza con cui sono stata trattata ha fatto cadere il velo che riparava quelli che si definivano amici, mostrando un’indifferenza ed una immaturità mostruose.
Non sono nella posizione di dover concedere comprensione a nessuno, dovrebbe essere il contrario. Né tempo o terze possibilità -le seconde le ho già date.
Ho il diritto di scegliere chi avere al mio fianco e con chi condividere il mio tempo prezioso, che potrebbe andarsene con mamma in qualsiasi istante.
Mi dispiace sia andata così, ma non è stata colpa mia.
La mia vita è cambiata completamente da 8 mesi.

Ho approfittato della necessità di questo sfogo per mostrare un total look Romwe, che ha vibrazioni di Gucci e Chanel e per cui adoro molto. La qualità è sorprendente, soprattutto se rapportato al basso prezzo di tutto. Su Romwe troverete tutto quello che desiderate da una vita, senza dover spendere un patrimonio, credetemi.
xx Dasynka

Photography by Carmela.vix, www.carmelavicedomini.it

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48 Comments

  • Reply
    Kim
    18 July 2017 at 18:30

    I love your pants! I often contemplate what friendship is as well. I’ll spend hours thinking!

    Kim
    Simply Lovebirds

    • Reply
      dasynka
      18 July 2017 at 20:00

      It’s so important to hve a precius idea of what it means to us and what we wanna from our friends 🙂 xx

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    Stacey
    15 July 2017 at 1:42

    Interesting reflection girl. For me, friendship is understanding and supportive, which I find is hard to find sometimes. Btw, I love your outfit so much!

    • Reply
      dasynka
      16 July 2017 at 11:09

      It’s really hard to find, just some lucky times. Thank you 🙂 xx

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    Valentina
    14 July 2017 at 20:02

    Tesoro la vita ci pone davanti delle sfide sempre difficili ♥️
    Sono convinta che i avere amici sono quelli che ti aiutano a superarle, anche restando in silenzio.
    Sei una ragazza forte non lo dimenticare mai

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      dasynka
      16 July 2017 at 11:09

      Restando in silenzio ma non andandosene, e io riconosco la differenza poichè ho avuto entrambe le cose. Ti ringrazio davvero tanto per il tuo continuo supporto❤ xx

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    Chelsheaflo
    13 July 2017 at 11:07

    Well, for me friendship is all about trusting each other 🙂 Anyway, love how you styled white cold shoulder top with pink pleated culotte, so chic and beautiful, just like you <3

    xoxo,
    |CHELSHEAFLO|

    http://www.chelsheaflo.blogspot.com

    • Reply
      dasynka
      16 July 2017 at 11:07

      Yes, trusting is another importnt think in a relationship 🙂 thank you so much❤, xx

  • Reply
    Yasmin
    13 July 2017 at 8:00

    Love those pleated pink pants! I think friendship is finding someone you can trust and who enables you to be your best self.

    xx Yasmin
    http://banglesandbungalows.com

    • Reply
      dasynka
      13 July 2017 at 9:23

      Oh yes, I also think that 🙂 xx

  • Reply
    Irina
    12 July 2017 at 21:37

    I totally love your outfit:) THe pants are so cute!

    irinathayer.com

    • Reply
      dasynka
      13 July 2017 at 9:23

      Thanks! xx

  • Reply
    Sara
    12 July 2017 at 12:23

    Che bel look hai ricreato con capi low cost! Bellissima riflessione

    • Reply
      dasynka
      13 July 2017 at 9:23

      Grazie, xx

  • Reply
    Paloma
    12 July 2017 at 10:41

    Very interesting reflection about friendship, and your look is great, love the pleated culottes!

    Kisses,

    http://www.theartofpaloma.com/

    • Reply
      dasynka
      13 July 2017 at 9:22

      Thank you so, xx

  • Reply
    Joyce
    11 July 2017 at 23:22

    I’m really sorry to hear that about your mom, I hope all is well and that wish the best for you and your family. I hope you have lots of friends and people to share your days with! And ps, love your outfit, so casual and glam at the same time!

    Characters & Carry-ons

    • Reply
      dasynka
      13 July 2017 at 9:22

      Thank you so much for your words, xx

  • Reply
    Gaia
    11 July 2017 at 14:59

    È doloroso ma è la scelta più giusta ♥️
    Bellissimi i pantaloni e la borsa ♥️

    • Reply
      dasynka
      13 July 2017 at 9:21

      Ti ringrazio❤️ xx

  • Reply
    Rachel
    11 July 2017 at 12:17

    Simply stunning! Love the entire look!

    http://chicglamstyle.com

    • Reply
      dasynka
      13 July 2017 at 9:21

      Thank you! xx

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    LindaLibraLoca
    10 July 2017 at 7:04

    I agree, friendship is proven in hard times when things don´t go smoothly and you need to rely on someone.

    Linda, Libra, Loca: Beauty, Baby and Backpacking

    • Reply
      dasynka
      13 July 2017 at 9:20

      And in that times you realized who are the real friends, xx

  • Reply
    Nancy
    10 July 2017 at 5:07

    There are a lot of things that define what friendship is. I agree with you, it’s someone who will be there for you through the thick and thin; giving you unconditional support and motivation. At the same time, they would try to steer you towards the right path (and not go down a bad hole).

    I’ve faced a few bad situations when I was alone. It wasn’t great but at the end of the day, it helped me realize who my real friends are.

    Thank you for sharing your thoughts :).

    https://exquisitely.me

    • Reply
      dasynka
      13 July 2017 at 9:20

      Yes, I also realized who are the real ones. Thank you for your words, it means a lot for me❤️ xx

  • Reply
    paula
    9 July 2017 at 20:42

    So sorry about your Mum, that is truly a time in your life when you need your friends. I lost my mother about 5 years ago and some friends were there for me, others not so much. I was lucky that I have an incredible bond with my sister and I could lean on her and she on me. <3

    http://shoe-fiend.blogspot.co.nz

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      dasynka
      13 July 2017 at 9:19

      You know, that is my same situation: just a couple of friends and my sister who is everything for me❤️ thank you for have spent some words for me, and to have read me, it’s so important for me❤️ xx

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    jointyicroissanty
    9 July 2017 at 7:30

    Beautiful top and amazing outfit!:)

    jointyicroissanty

    • Reply
      dasynka
      9 July 2017 at 12:55

      Thanks, xx

  • Reply
    dora
    7 July 2017 at 20:11

    I found that especially an I grew older true friends were really hard to find! I guess it’s good to have two three really good ones than tons of fake ones.
    Dora

    • Reply
      dasynka
      8 July 2017 at 8:45

      Exactly, just two or three, and you can feel so lucky 🙂 xx

  • Reply
    Paola Lauretano
    7 July 2017 at 19:22

    Such a cute look, I love every single piece!
    Kisses, Paola.
    Expressyourself

    • Reply
      dasynka
      8 July 2017 at 8:44

      Thank you 🙂 xx

  • Reply
    Keri
    7 July 2017 at 16:54

    Such a pretty look!! Love those pleated pants, babe!

    Enclothed Cognition

    • Reply
      dasynka
      8 July 2017 at 8:43

      Thank you! xx

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    Andrea
    7 July 2017 at 16:05

    Every piece in this outfit looks beautiful!

    Always time and the circumstances of life show us who are our true friends and then we learn in which relationships we need to focus and invest our time 🙂

    Have a great weekend!
    Andrea.

    Seize your Style

    • Reply
      dasynka
      8 July 2017 at 8:43

      Yes, time is the very big teacher of life. Thank you so much, xx

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    Unadonnaalcontrario
    7 July 2017 at 14:50

    È proprio nei momenti complicati che emergono le qualità delle persone. È molto doloroso ma aiuta a lasciare andare certe persone di cui non abbiamo bisogno

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      dasynka
      7 July 2017 at 15:58

      Esatto. Bisogna avere la fermezza di scegliere chi avere al nostro fianco, xx

  • Reply
    Heather
    7 July 2017 at 12:52

    Absolutely beautiful writing. I love your outfit so much too – particularly your blouse!

    Heather xx
    https://www.hefafa.me.uk

    • Reply
      dasynka
      7 July 2017 at 15:59

      Thank you so much, really xx

  • Reply
    Bernice
    7 July 2017 at 6:10

    Beautiful, and eloquent description of your perspective on friendship!

    https://www.bunnybernice.com/single-post/2017/07/07/What-Facebook-Thinks-You-Want-To-See-Online-And-How-To-Change-It

    • Reply
      dasynka
      7 July 2017 at 10:51

      I’m happy you’re agree 🙂 xx

  • Reply
    Kris
    7 July 2017 at 0:02

    I’m in LOVE with your outfit!!!!

    Have an awesome day!
    xx, Kris

    https://dreamingofpink.wordpress.com

    • Reply
      dasynka
      7 July 2017 at 10:51

      Thank you so 🙂 xx

  • Reply
    barbiegirl06
    6 July 2017 at 19:10

    Such a beautiful post and story, thanks for sharing!

    Also, your outfit is so cute! 🙂

    https://barbiegirl06.wordpress.com/

    • Reply
      dasynka
      6 July 2017 at 19:52

      Thank you 🙂 xx

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