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This Halloween, I dressed up like my second biggest fear: time’s fear.
It’s so difficult to balance the anxiety of his pressure and the urge to live it to the fullest, right?
Everything in this life is measured in “time spent”: in exchange for money in work, for love in friendships, for satisfactions in life.
But no one has ever taught us the value of every minute we have, of this incalculable wealth that is worth every choice we make.
Why is there no “time investment course” at school?
They should teach us how much to put aside each day into something that makes us feel good, to have a piggy bank of happy memories for retirement.
They should explain to us that every minute spent in being well is a gain, while that in anger and quarrels has a higher rate of loss than the investment.
They should make us repeat by heart the equation for which time = gift = life = possibility of play.
They should make us learn the quantum physics’s rules on the perception of unlimited time in a limited life: there is an exact number of added seconds for each of us, and this must be a warning to act but not the anxiety of dying.
Cause there’s time for everything, but there’s no time to waste.
We must learn to do the calculations well, adding to the survival needs those to the heart, minus the life’s waste marked by society, divided for the rest moments, multiplying all this for the happiness that can give every moment spent doing something we love – because the perception of lived time exponentially increases.
The result will be a life of balanced compromises that at the end of the day help us answer “yes, I am” to the most important question of all, the one we were born for:
if it were the last day, would I be satisfied with how I lived it and what I’ve done to date?
The answer is up to you.
Saying it, is what scares the most, but also the only engine that pushes us to change, stopping to perceive time’s flow as impending death.
A fear that I hope to overcome one day.
Yet it is an awareness that – having it – can save you.
Time teaches us to concretize the life we have in our hands, rather than waiting for the world to make something of us.
It’s the balance that weighs, the goldsmith who assigns value to every thing-experience-person, giving you back the enthusiasm of those who play a single game of poker, gambling everything.
The passing of time is the most persuasive spur to action we have.
Truth judge.
Teaching Master.
The only real wealth we possess.
And greater fear of loss.
It’s what makes sense of everything.
On this day of terror, do you have the courage to tell your fear?
Which costume have you chosen this year?
xx Dasynka
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Per questo Halloween, mi sono travestita dalla mia seconda paura più grande: l’ansia del tempo.
Tempo sprecato, tempo esaurito, tempo rimpianto.
È così difficile bilanciare l’ansia della sua pressione e lo sprono a viverlo al massimo, vero?
Tutto, di questa vita, si misura in “tempo impiegato”: in cambio di denaro nel lavoro, di affetto nelle amicizie, di soddisfazioni nella vita.
Ma nessuno ci ha mai insegnato il valore di ogni minuto che abbiamo, di questa ricchezza incalcolabile che vale ogni scelta che facciamo.
Perché a scuola non esiste un corso di investimento del tempo?
Dovrebbero chiarirci quanto metterne da parte ogni giorno in qualcosa che ci faccia stare bene, da avere un salvadanaio di ricordi felici per la pensione.
Dovrebbero spiegarci che ogni minuto speso a stare bene sia guadagno, mentre quello in rabbia e litigi abbia un tasso di perdita superiore all’investimento.
Dovrebbero farci ripetere a memoria l’equazione per cui tempo = dono = vita = possibilità di gioco.
Dovrebbero farci imparare le regole della fisica quantistica sulla percezione di tempo illimitato in una vita limitata: c’è un numero esatto di secondi addizionati per ognuno di noi, e dev’essere monito ad agire ma non ansia di morire.
Perché c’è tempo per tutto, ma non c’è tempo da perdere.
Bisogna imparare a fare bene i calcoli, addizionando ai bisogni di sopravvivenza quelli del cuore, meno gli sprechi di una vita scandita dalla società, diviso i momenti per riposare e ricaricarsi, moltiplicando tutto questo per la felicità che, ogni istante speso a fare qualcosa che amiamo, può dare – perché aumenta in maniera esponenziale la percezione del tempo vissuto.
Il risultato sarà una vita di equilibrati compromessi che a fine giornata ci aiutino a rispondere “si, lo sono” alla domanda più importante di tutte, quella per cui siamo nati:
se fosse l’ultimo giorno, sarei soddisfatto di come l’ho vissuto e di quanto fatto ad oggi?
A voi la risposta.
Pronunciarla è ciò che più spaventa, ma anche l’unico motore che spinge a cambiare, smettendo di percepire lo scorrere del tempo come morte incombente.
Una paura che spero un giorno di superare.
Eppure è una consapevolezza che – ad averla – può salvarti.
Il tempo insegna a concretizzare la vita che hai tra le mani, anziché aspettare che sia il mondo a fare qualcosa di te.
È la bilancia che soppesa, l’orafo che assegna valore ad ogni cosa-esperienza-persona, restituendoti l’entusiasmo di chi disputa un’unica partita a poker, giocandosi tutto.
Il tempo che passa è lo sprono all’azione più persuasivo che abbiamo.
Giudice di verità.
Maestro di insegnamenti.
Unica vera ricchezza che possediamo.
E più grande paura di perdita.
È ciò che dà un senso a tutto.
In questo giorno di terrori, avete il coraggio di raccontare una vostra paura?
Quale costume avete scelto quest’anno?
xx Dasynka
40 commenti
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Oh this makes me so happy, thank you Laine! ♥ xx
What an interesting post! Oh yes I can see why you fear time but fear should prompt one to live life to its fullest. And LOVING this costume!!!
Allie
You are so true! And thank you, Allie ♥ xx
Wow, you’re brave. This is amazing! I love your website and I’m especially inspired by the pictures you have of yourself for every birthday. I never thought of compiling mine, probably don’t have many close-up pictures. I promise to start this year. Thanks for the inspiration.
Oh I’m feeling so happy right now reading your words – even if so late in time – and wish you started this tradition. Taking photographs is the best way to make memories alive ♥ xx
As I get older time definitely becomes more precious and meaningful. It is interesting to try and balance the idea of the value of time and making memories, but also not putting pressure on your time. Life is such a learning experience.
I love the idea of dressing up as your fear. Very cool! 🙂
I agree with every word, learning how to manage and value our time is such an important thing we face growing up!
Btw thank you so much ♥ xx
What an incredible costume! I love the amount of detail put into this look, even down to the gloves. I love everything about it! I agree with the fact that we should’ve been taught time investment. I’m thankful there are so many people using their voices to amplify just how important it is to make time for ourselves, take care of our mental health, and rest. Thanks for sharing!
Yes, it’s a topic more talked nowadays, and this allows to grow awareness in us ♥
Thanks very much! xx
That costume is absolutely incredible!! I totally agree wiht you about the time spent argument, learning to balance obligation and happiness is something that I think almost everyone struggles with at some point. It would be so nice if we were taught the importance of making time for joy when we were still in school.
True, it’s something we only deal with when something impactful happens to us, but how long before do we end up not valuing?
Thanks for your words, xx
I loved reading this- thank you so much for being so open with your perspective!
-Ashley
Thanks to you! xx
Best way to get over our fears is to face them. It is true that time is of the essance. I sometimes feel like our society glorifies being busy because people are afraid to face themselves. I enjoyed reading your very wise words. Beautiful Halloween look and photos.
Your words are so true! The society makes us so obsessively “productive” that we have forgotten what it means to live slowly, to be present, to enjoy life. Instead we are always projected into the future..
Btw thank you! xx
This is a stunning costume, and I love your point about a time investment course at school. We only have one precious life and we should always try to make the most of it.
So true, we need to respect more the time we are given ♥ xx
What a cool costume! Facing my fears is what I plan on doing this year. Amazing post!
I wish you did so, it’s such a beautiful goal to set, xx
These photos are absolutely stunning and they portray what you’re saying about time in this post perfectly. Time is such a tricky thing. You’re right, there is time for everything yet there’s no time to waste either. I think teaching children more about time management etc would be an excellent thing!
I agree, teaching and talking about time management is something that should be done more, even in school!
Anyway thank you very much for your kind words, xx
I guess we don’t have a course to teach us about the value of time because then we’d be less likely to give up our time for crappy jobs for terrible pay, for the sake of a few people who benefit from the capitalist system
I guess yes. That’s something we need to learn ourselves and teach to others.. xx
I totally agree that it’s something that needs touching on, as it’s something all of us go through and I’m sure most have struggled with. Your costume is amazing too xx
Hannah
It’s a fear too deeply rooted in our society too deeply.
Thank you very much, Hannah! xx
This is such an amazing idea to dress up as your biggest fear for Halloween.
I love your costume.
xx
Margot
Thank you very much Halloween is all about our fears xx
I love your costume!
I feel like nowadays many people are like any time wasted is time you could’ve spent making money, but making money isn’t the most important in life. We do need to set time aside to do things that make us happy.
Oh that’s so true.. we have all fallen into the thought that time is money and that money is happiness. And instead how many really happy things we forget to do .. it’s difficult to change mentality in a society that thinks like this, but I hope to succeed this year. xx
I love this post, Dasynka, and totally agree that they should teach about the value of time at school!
Love your costume too!
Julia x
I’m glady you can relay with me, hopefully one day things will change (at least teachers will!). Thank you! xx
You do an amazing job with your costumes! The face paint looks phenomenal. I felt like school failed us really badly with the topics they’ve taught. Nothing really used in everyday living. It’s important that we use our time the best we can – putting most to good use, and a lot in things we want, like taking care of ourselves.
Nancy ✨ Cold Brew Vibes
I couldn’t agree more. School should play a more important role in our education, menthal health and thoughts, but it only teach us numbers and conjectures.
Anyway thank you very much! xx
This is an interesting thought. Your costume is brilliant!
xoxo
Lovely
Thank you very much! xx
Wow, your costume is spectactular Dasynka. And it’s very wise what you’ve written. I think the older and older we get, the more we realize this.
XOOX
Jodie
True, time matures us and lets us grow❤️ thank you very much xx
I like how thoughtful and straightforward your article was. I am also really big on really enjoying life and making it happen for yourself. One of the most important things for me would be to really have an impact on those around me, a beautiful and positive impact. Thank you for taking the time to write down your thoughts!
This is such a beautiful goal for life, and I also have set the want to leave something better in others’ life. The human being has often this need to fell accomplished by helping others and that’s why this world is a wonderful place.
Thanks to you for taking time to read my thoughts❤️ xx