Part 1 – The beginning

ENGLISH / ITALIANO sotto
A month ago I told mine and my sister’s story, through Frozen, for the many similarities in common, starting from the end: the second film.
Now I’ll tell you the beginning, Frozen I: the moment when something breaks, and its reconstruction takes years.
In our history, this is not yet over.
Elsa and Anna are two sisters forced to split up suddenly, for a reason that Elsa cannot reveal.
It’s for the good of both.
Elsa must learn to manage her fear, accept her diversity, become aware of the strength she has, tame a power that grows with her.
Her younger sister has to stay away from her for her own safety. But she doesn’t understand it.
Anna sees the world in a very genuine and naive way.
She has a constant need to feel loved, and she lets her happiness depend on those around her.
She still retains her childhood eyes through which she filters everything and judges – even the behavior and choices of others – based only on her perspective.
It’s the reason for her quarrel at Elsa’s coronation for her birthday.
In her sister’s waste, Anna sees no other motivation than what she can imagine: indifference and absence of love.
But
nobody
can
understand
the others.
Only himself.
It’s essential to recognize this our limitation.
Each of us lives and acts according to situations, inclinations, reasons of our own that cannot be explained or heard by anyone.
As much as we think we understand others, we’ll never really be able to.
We are all different.
We must accept who we love without expecting to know or change them.
And trust that those we love are acting for the good, even if we can’t understand the reasons.
Anna instead judges her sister’s behavior without being able to read Elsa’s suffering, who fights her inner battle, and that she tries to keep Anna safe from herself until she can master her powers.
ITALIANO
Un mese fa ho raccontato la storia mia e di mia sorella, attraverso Frozen, per le tante similitudini in comune, partendo dalla fine: il secondo film.
Adesso vi racconto l’inizio, Frozen I: il momento in cui qualcosa si spezza, e la sua ricostruzione richiede anni.
Nella nostra storia, questa, non è ancora terminata.
Elsa ed Anna sono due sorelle costrette a dividersi improvvisamente, per una ragione che Elsa non può rivelare.
È per il bene di entrambe.
Elsa deve imparare a gestire la sua paura, accettare la sua diversità, maturare la consapevolezza della forza che possiede, domare un potere che cresce con lei.
La sorella minore deve starle lontana per la sua stessa sicurezza. Ma non lo capisce.
Anna vede il mondo in modo molto genuino ed ingenuo.
Ha il continuo bisogno di sentirsi amata, e lascia dipendere la sua felicità da chi ha intorno.
Conserva ancora i suoi occhi da bambina attraverso cui filtra ogni cosa e giudica – anche comportamenti e scelte altrui – basandosi solo sulla sua prospettiva.
È il motivo della lite all’incoronazione di Elsa per il suo compleanno.
Nei rifiuti della sorella, Anna non vede altre motivazione all’infuori di quelle che può immaginare: indifferenza e assenza di amore.
Ma
nessuno
può
comprendere
gli altri.
Solo sé stesso.
È fondamentale riconoscere questo nostro limite.
Ognuno di noi vive e agisce secondo situazioni, inclinazioni, ragioni proprie che non possono essere spiegate o sentite da alcuno.
Per quanto crediamo di capire gli altri, non potremo mai davvero.
Siamo tutti diversi.
Dobbiamo accettare chi amiamo senza pretendere di conoscerlo o cambiarlo.
E avere fiducia che chi amiamo agisce per il bene, anche se non possiamo capirne le ragioni.
Anna invece giudica il comportamento della sorella senza riuscire a leggere la sofferenza di Elsa, che combatte la sua battaglia interiore, e che cerca di tenere Anna al riparo da sé stessa fintanto che non riuscirà a padroneggiare i suoi poteri.
Part 2 – Let it go

ENGLISH
Anna’s accusals force Elsa to flee.
But what does she really run away from?
It’s impossible to escape from ourselves.
This is not what saves us.
She arrives at the Northern mountain and
alone,
in the middle of the storm,
finally
she understand.
“It’s time to see what I can do, to test the limits and break through!
No right, no wrong, no riles for me.
I’m free!
[..] Let it go, let it go
When I’ll rise like the break of dawn.”
She understands that the secret is to let go of fear.
The fear of not being strong enough.
Of having no control over her life.
Of disappointing.
Of Anna’s intrusiveness and incomprehension.
Of her responsibilities after the loss of her parents.
She understands that she doesn’t have to dominate her strength, but let it flow.
Believe in her abilities.
Accept herself.
But she can do it only in an isolated and protected place, far from everything and everyone: in her ice palace.
Her safe world, where she expresses what she is capable of without fear, limitation or expectation.
In an introspective ascent through silence.
She dresses in her light.
But Anna arrives there to bring her back. Once again convinced by her naivety that this is enough to solve everything.
Yet,
in the end,
it’ll be her own good heart that will save her, Elsa and the kingdom. With an act of true love.
Cause true love doesn’t ask for explanations, doesn’t demand anything in return, doesn’t abandon and doesn’t depend on anyone.
True love is there.
It holds out the hand and waits.
It comes at the worst times.
It welcomes.
It remains silent.
It loves.
My sister, with her kind eyes and genuine heart, is just like Anna (including yawns), but also in her way of helping by pushing beyond barriers, sometimes forgetting the complex diversity that underlies even two sisters who grew up together.
It’s a bridge still under construction, between my crystal palace on the northern mountain and the castle that she lives in the vibrant city of Arendelle.
It’s complicated to build a fraternal relationship.
You grow inseparable, then something changes, and recreating the bond requires the understanding of not being able to understand.
Only an act of true love will thaw a frozen heart.
ITALIANO
Le accuse di Anna costringono Elsa a fuggire via.
Ma da cosa fugge veramente?
È impossibile scappare da sé stessi.
Non è questo a salvarci.
Arriva alla montagna del Nord e
sola,
in mezzo alla tempesta,
finalmente
capisce.
“Non è un difetto, è una virtù, e non la fermerò mai più!
[..] D’ora in poi troverò la mia vera identità
E vivrò per sempre in libertà!
[..] come il Sole tramonterò
Perché poi all’alba sorgerò!”
Capisce che il segreto è lasciar andare – let it go – la paura.
La paura di non essere abbastanza forte.
Di non avere controllo della sua vita.
Di deludere.
Dell’invadenza e incomprensione di Anna.
Delle responsabilità che gravano su di lei dopo la perdita dei genitori.
Capisce che non deve dominare la sua forza, ma lasciarla fluire.
Credere nelle sue capacità.
Accettarsi, libera di essere sé stessa.
Ma può farlo soltanto in un luogo isolato e protetto, lontana da tutto e tutti: nel suo palazzo di ghiaccio.
Il suo mondo sicuro, dove esprime ciò di cui è capace senza timori, limitazioni o aspettative.
In un’ascesa introspettiva attraverso il silenzio.
Si veste della sua luce.
Anna però arriva fin lì per riportarla indietro. Ancora una volta convinta dalla sua ingenuità che basti questo per risolvere.
Eppure,
alla fine,
sarà il suo stesso cuore buono a salvare lei, Elsa e il regno. Con un atto di vero amore.
Perché il vero amore non chiede spiegazioni, non pretende nulla in cambio, non abbandona e non dipende da nessuno.
Il vero amore c’è.
Tende la mano e aspetta.
Arriva nei momenti peggiori.
Accoglie.
Resta in silenzio.
Ama.
Mia sorella, con i suoi occhi gentili e il cuore genuino, è proprio come Anna (sbadigli compresi), ma anche nel suo modo di aiutare spingendo oltre le barriere, dimenticando a volte la complessa diversità che sottende persino due sorelle cresciute insieme.
È un ponte ancora in costruzione, tra il mio palazzo di cristallo sulla montagna del Nord e il castello che lei abita nella fervida città di Arendelle.
È complicato edificare un rapporto fraterno.
Si cresce inseparabili, poi qualcosa cambia, e ricreare il legame richiede la comprensione di non poter comprendere.
Solo un atto di vero amore scioglierà un cuore gelato.
Part 3 – birthday

ENGLISH
An ice palace: the birthday cake I prepared this year.
It was complicated (see the video), but in the end I managed to create a semi-transparent structure in the colors of the sea to symbolize who I am.
After 27 years, I accept my being.
My tightness.
My silences full of thoughts.
The need to take refuge in a safe place inside me every time I’m alone, where I’m free to be myself and where I shelter what makes me happy.
My ice castle.
Ice heart.
It defends me from the rest around me, even from those I love.
My friends call me Elsa, joking.
The first few years it gave me to think, only now I feel how true it is.
Not right or wrong, as I wondered, thinking I was cold and numb to their eyes.
Just true.
My element is ice because I’m transparent and sincere, but impenetrable and rigid.
Ice protects and preserves everything – even life – without destroying anything.
I’m not vulnerable, I’m not malleable, there is no need to press or force me: I resist or I break.
And after I break, I thaw and revive, this is my resilience.
Reborn with the same strength from the same water but in different forms, like snowflakes.
It wasn’t the birthday I had imagined. Not just because it’s the second in quarantine.
It was the first to end up in tears.
(Yet – the case – even Elsa is forced to flee on the evening of her birthday and coronation.)
A series of unexpected events exploded at the end of the day.
I haven’t finished the cake, blown out the candles or baked the pizza. I put it off until the next day.
But it was intense in some way, and left me something important.
Everything was right.
We are all human,
we’re all broken,
we are all tired,
we are.
We are as we are and no one is better or worse, right or wrong. Nobody perfect.
Living means taking every emotion, letting yourself be crossed and moving on.
It’s all propaedeutics.
Everything put there to teach us something, you just have remember this, in the end.
It’s the only thing that matters.
Thank you for your love and messages, you’ve given me so much. Even a ❤ makes a difference.
xx Dasynka
ITALIANO
Un palazzo di ghiaccio: la torta di compleanno che ho preparato quest’anno.
È stato complicato (vedi video), ma alla fine sono riuscita a creare una struttura semitrasparente dai colori del mare a simboleggiare ciò che sono.
Dopo 27 anni, accetto il mio essere.
La mia ermeticità.
I miei silenzi pieni di pensieri.
Il bisogno di rifugiarmi in un luogo sicuro dentro me ogni volta che sono sola, in cui sono libera di essere me stessa e dove riparo ciò che mi rende felice.
Il mio castello di ghiaccio.
Cuore di ghiaccio.
Mi difende dal resto intorno, anche da chi amo.
I miei amici mi chiamano Elsa, scherzando.
I primi anni mi ha dato da pensare, solo adesso sento quanto sia vero.
Non giusto o sbagliato, come mi domandavo, credendo di apparire ai loro occhi fredda e insensibile.
Ma vero.
Il mio elemento è il ghiaccio perché sono trasparente e sincera, ma impenetrabile e rigida.
Il ghiaccio protegge e preserva ogni cosa – anche la vita – senza nulla distruggere.
Non sono vulnerabile, non sono plasmabile, non serve pressarmi o forzarmi: io resisto o mi spezzo.
E dopo essermi spezzata, mi sciolgo e mi ricompongo, questa è la mia resilienza.
Rinascere con la stessa forza dalla stessa acqua ma in forme diverse, come fiocchi di neve.
Non è stato il compleanno che avevo immaginato. Non solo perché è il secondo in quarantena.
È stato il primo finito in lacrime.
(Eppure – il caso – anche Elsa è costretta a scappare proprio la sera del suo compleanno e incoronazione.)
Una serie di imprevisti esplosi a fine giornata.
Non ho finito la torta, spento le candeline né cotto la pizza. Ho rimandato al giorno dopo.
Ma è stato intenso a suo modo, e mi ha lasciato qualcosa di importante.
È stato giusto così.
Siamo tutti umani,
siamo tutti spezzati,
siamo tutti stanchi,
siamo.
Siamo come siamo e nessuno è migliore o peggiore, giusto o sbagliato. Nessuno perfetto.
Vivere significa prendersi ogni emozione, lasciarsi attraversare e andare avanti.
È tutta propedeutica.
Tutto messo lì per insegnarci qualcosa, basta ricordarselo, alla fine. È l’unica cosa che conta.
Vi ringrazio per l’affetto e i messaggi, mi avete dato tanto. Anche un ❤ fa la differenza.
xx Dasynka
64 commenti
Wow so beautiful post, you look gorgeous, I love the way that you talk about your emotions. Thanks for sharing.
Adelaide
Thank you for reading, Adelaide ♥ xx
Such a lovely post. I hope you had a really great birthday to remember! Thank you for sharing.
Lauren – bournemouthgirl
It was special in its own way 🙂 thank you very much! xx
Hope you had the most amazing birthday!
It was special 🙂 xx
You nailed that cosplay, well done!
Oh thank you very much! xx
Happy Birthday! This is so fun and I love a themed style inspo 🙂
Thank you very much, glad you loved the idea! xx
Such a beautiful post! I love all the FROZEN photos!
-Didier
Oh thank you 🙂 xx
You look so stunning! I hope you had a lovely birthday! Have a wonderful weekend! x
Ann-Marie
Thank you very very much! xx
Love that you’re able to share your story through Frozen! Such a great sisterhood movie, based on love. Anna is such a sweetheart, although not the smartest. Love the photoshoot! Gorgeous!
Nancy ✨
Thank you Nancy 🙂 I’m so happy you read this storytelling and that you love Frozen movie as well! Yes, you totally nailed Anna’s character❤️ xx
What a beautiful cake and photos! Happy birthday to you! It’s a shame you didn’t get to have the cake on your birthday but I bet it was worth the wait! 🙂
Hope you are having a great weekend 🙂
Yes, it was so weird not blowing candle that night, but it was a beautiful night anyway, we made up our relation and the next day everything went perfect 🙂 thank you very much ❤️ xx
I love Frozen & my daughter does too! You look beautiful & I love your cake!
Oh thank you! xx
Hey Dasynka, I hope you’re doing good!
First of all thank you so much for checking my latest blog post and for your compliments, they made my day
And so happy to discover your site, it is full of inspiration and it was such a different way to celebrate with Frozen, loved the aesthetics of the movie and you managed to create the whole atmosphere, the edits are incredible!
Pablo
Thank you so much to taking time to dive into this post☺️ xx
You look so beautiful and that cake is an amazing work of art.
I love the message here too about accepting ourselves and others as we are.
Julia x
Oh Julia, thank you very very much, I’m glad you liked it 🙂 xx
You look stunning in these photos!
Katie
Thank you so much! xx
I love frozen! The story is so beautiful!
True, so close to my heart, xx
Aw, this was beautiful! Your photos are also soooo stunning! Hope you had a great birthday despite everything xx
Lynn
Yes, I’m grateful for how it went 🙂 thank you for your words Lynn, xx
What a lovely post! Great photos! I hope you had a lovely birthday!
It was different from what I expected but special anyway. Thank you! xx
Happy belated birthday and I’m sorry it didn’t turn out as expected! Have a wonderful weekend my dear!
Thank you Yvonne! In the end I was grateful for how it was, I learned something important❤️ xx
Loved this so much!! I hope you had an amazing birthday x
At the end it was 🙂 xx
Beautifully written post and you look beautiful as does that cake! My daughter grew up with Frozen and I must have watched the movie with her a million times. Such a good storyline with a good message behind it. Happy Birthday!
Carrie
Thank you Carrie 🙂
I think I watched Frozen the same amound of times hahah xx
I absolutely love the photos you’ve shared! You looked so so so good!
xoxo Simone
Thank you very much 🙂 xx
First of all, happy birthday! Buon compleanno. I wish you all the best! Sometimes birthday’s aren’t happy and that is alright. We cannot force emotions, just live with them. I was feeling a bit blue on my birthday as well, for a variety of reasons…but emotions come and go and if I recall well, the next day I was feeling better. It is wonderful you are always so sincere with your emotions. I think it takes a lot of strength.
Your writing is always so sincere and from the heart. You have a wonderful way with words and so many important messages to share. Your writing always both moves me and teaches me something. I enjoy reading your posts. The photograph is wonderful as well.
I loved the Frozen movie. I can see how it resembles your and your sister’s life story. I hope you will be able to keep your sisterly bond always and find comfort in one another.
Oh Ivana, I can’t put into words how much good your message has done me.
Thank you for the deepest of my heart. Thank you for taking time ti read, taking time to empathize, taking time to write me back and be so gentle and genuine and true.
I never think that someone take the actual time to embrace these long articles, and I understand it.
But when I meet a soul capable of such big connection.. I feel so grateful and overwhelmed.
Thank you for all this❤️ xx
Beautiful message in this post, and the Frozen look is so lovely! Great post.
Thank you very much! xx
Wow, the cake you made looked amazing and the video of you making it highlighted the skills and effort it took to make.
The one thing I don’t get about the original plot of Frozen is how her parents though it was best to lock away there daughter rather than helping her to master her powers
Thank you very very much for your words❤️
About the parents choise, well, if you watch the movie you can see that Elsa hurts Anna by mistake, cause she can’t control her powers. And the Troll Master advice them to delete Anna’s memory of Elsa’s powers so that she can stay away from her, and in the meantime their parents do help Elsa master them. The problem is, Elsa is so scared and cannot control them, her powers grow with her. Then parents die, and Elsa is even more afraid to hurt Anna so she stays away (and days become years).
Anyway thank you for taking time to dive into this long postblog, this means a lot❤️ xx
Posso dire che siete meravigliose? non ho mai visto frozen per intero ma capisco il concept dietro e voi due sorelle siete un esempio!
Ti ringrazio di cuore per queste parole e per il tempo speso a leggere nonostante la tematica “distante”❤️ xx
I’m sorry your birthday didn’t go as you had originally planned- but you definitely made the best of it! That cake looks amazing!
-Ashley
Le Stylo Rouge
Oh yes, I tryied to make the best of it, and I was happy in the end. Thank you Ashley! xx
I am sorry your Birthday was to challenging and not what wanted but the photos are BRILLIANT!! Love them, you look great so beautiful and that cake is AMAZING!
Allie
Thank you very much Allie❤️ in the end I was able to have my little celebration, so I’m happy anyway 🙂 xx
Your posts are always so beatiful, I love the message here and your interpretation. You’re right, we’re all different. I’m sorry things didn’t go as planned! You look incredible here x
Sophie
Oh Sophie, thank you very much for your words, they mean a lot right now❤️ it was a special birthday anyway, everything comes for good reasons 🙂 xx
I love the message here. Accepting ourselves and others as we are is so important.
Yes❤️ thank you Kathrine xx
I’m so sorry your birthday didn’t go as planned but I love that you’ve written up a parallel with one of the strongest sister bonds in recent times. Everything is a learning journey, and we all need to learn to accept ourselves as well as each other.
So true, everything comes to teach us somenthing good, and so I’m glad for all❤️ xx
What a beautiful post! Absolutely adore the photos too 🙂 x
Thank you very much 🙂 xx
The cake looks like a piece of art!
Anouk
Oh thank you! xx
Wow you looked so beautiful! Hope you had an amazing birthday!
have a great week,
Tiziana
It was a different one. Thanks! xx